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So this post centers around Anderson Silva and how he picked up Rachelle Leah in this episode of UFC all access.
Even though he speaks barely any english, he is able to portray his attractiveness in other ways. Watch his body language and you can see what he thinks about himself and the world, and how well this translates to attracting hot women.
Anderson Silva couldn’t have been more loose and relaxed in the entire show. He does what he wants, what he thinks is fun, and takes her along for the ride. He goes paint-balling, takes her for a ride on his motorcycle, and takes her out to dinner at his restaurant.
One key thing to note here, watch how he is constantly leading, observe how he picks out a venue where all the chips are stacked in his favor. He could take her to any restaurant, but no, he takes her to one that his friend owns, and then shows up with a dramatic entrance through the kitchen. Making a dramatic entrance is an easy way to get noticed when you walk in anywhere. He walks right up to her and gives her two kisses. His movement, his confidence (inside and out of the ring) is amazing. He is comfortable with himself and with her and it really shines through.
Watch at 7:45 In where he is wearying dorky slippers and doing a moonwalk, completely in his own element and just messing around with the hot girl. He is completely himself and having fun looking like a fool on national TV. Once again, his confidence is legendary. Then he starts dancing with her spontaneously, observe how much she is loving it!
At 10 min he again takes her completely into his world. If he was supplicating to a girl, trying to do what he thinks she might want to do because he likes her so much, he might take her shopping or something stupid. This is not what he does. He takes her into his world, does what he wants to do and thinks is FUN.
When taking a woman on a date, don’t go for the safe and mundane. Display your talents, or go somewhere interesting and fun.
One he gets her on the bike, at around 12 min its game over. Look at how they interact from this point on… I think its pretty clear he hit that!
Listen to how she describes him. She says he is “loose and relaxed”, she mentions how he is a dual personality of a dangerous fighter and a family man. Women love a man who they feel can protect them. Moreover, she understands who he really is, how he is grounded, and where he is from. If you can demonstrate to a woman who you really are, your underlying beliefs and values this is VERY powerful. He inroduces her to his entire family, he has invited her open armed into his world. Watch his social proof and how much his family loves him. She is completely immersed in his world.
Finally, look at their secret handshake, the way she keeps hugging him after he stops. Secret handshakes are fun to create with girls, try it sometime. Its a great way to create a feeling of “us against the world”, touch her, and just mess around and enjoy life.
Anderson Silva is more than just an awesome fighter, the guy understands women.
Language is no barrier when you are able to connect on a deeper level.
The best guy in Mixed Martial arts at this moment is Anderson Silva, the way he moves, his gracefulness inside the octagon is unparalleled. He routinely throws out strikes other fighters wouldn’t think to attempt. Unconventional and unpredictable, he is able to outsmart, outmaneuver and knock out many of his opponents. He is almost always cautious in the beginning of the fight. He glides around the space stalking his prey, feeling them out and waiting for the precise moment to strike. And once he smells blood, once he knows he has you hurt, he attacks with veracity.
Not all of his wins are pretty though. He has been frequently lambasted for not engaging, dancing around his opponent. fighting them at a range and with a style they have perhaps never encountered in their training.
But if the essence of fighting to to hit and not be hit?
Too often these critics are casual MMA fans who are looking for a quick and bloody swingfest knockout. Entertaining? Yes. Strategic and skillful? Perhaps not.
He is a master of fighting where he is most comfortable, despite being extremely well rounded and comfortable on the ground (he is excellent at brazilian Jiu Jitsu) he chooses to fight almost exclusively on his feet, where his combination of punches, kicks, knees and elbows come from all angles to attack his opponents. Truly a master of martial arts, he also seeks out new ways of fighting, even though he is the best in the world. check out this video of him training with Steven Seagal. Surely some of these moves are not effective in a sport mixed martial arts event, but you have to give him credit for continuing to expand upon his game in unorthodox ways. Which is what you should be doing with the ladies.
Check back tomorrow when i will tell you some of the ways Anderson Silva picked up this HOT girl, Rachelle Leah, despite speaking very little english! In this episode of UFC All-Acess
Watch the video here.
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College parties focus around a central theme: mingling. By this I mean people are less likely to be defensive off the bat. You may know someone they know, and they don’t want to appear socially un-calibrated. Contrast this to a club where most people are random strangers.
At a college party, if you are friendly, out to have a good time and not creepy, people will feed off of your positive energy. Playing social circle game in these situations is also important. Once you develop a large enough social circle with social connectors it is important to try and meet people at these parties though a proper introduction. This will completely avoid the need for an opener, and it gives you built in comfort and status.
Guys with NO game watsoever can get laid at a college party.
Here are 4 rules of thumb to go by. Not all inclusive, but decently effective.
Rule #1: Get introduced by a mutual friend if possible. Ask your boy to meet his hot friends, or your hot friend if she can introduce you to her hot friends. Meet people through others if possible.
If not, then wait for the right moment to segway in. If you are surrounded by women, then others will come up and open you. Last thing I want to do is be sketchily looking for approval by bouncing around the room looking for validation. I want to be making new friends because I’m a cool and interesting person, and I like to meet new people. Be comfortable in your own skin. Be open to meeting new people, but don’t be overtly interested or strangely engrossed in the conversation. The person who is trying to keep up the conversation, who is more interested, has the weaker frame.
Joke around, don’t be too serious but don’t be gay either. If you don’t have anything to say, then let them pull their weight. There is a difference between the annoying guy who won’t shut up and the creep in the corner who no one knows: it’s the mysterious guy who everyone seems to gravitate towards.
Work for approach invitations. If the chick just eye fucked you, she obviously wants to meet you. If she has shown no approach invite your advance will be harder (but by no means impossible). If you have an approach invitation, it is socially unintelligent to go and ask an opinion opener. The chick will play along sometimes just because she wants to talk to you, but really you should be going direct, or semi-direct. Something along the lines of “if you’re going to look at me like that, you have to say something” works well if you just got eye-fucked.
Rule #2: Opinion openers are not ideal for college parties. They are somewhat weird in context. If you feel comfortable using them, by all means go ahead. But in an environment where people are mingling and being friendly it is somewhat socially unintelligent to ask “who lies more girls or guys.” Its like why are you asking me this. You should *assume* that you are of high enough value to hold the conversation. The opener hardly matters. You’re a cool guy, why shouldn’t you be talking to the hot chick?
That being said, opinion openers definitely can work in the right context, just some of the guys I work with have read the Game, and now they go around doing “who lies more” or “best friends test”, which is just weird and not good for parties.
Rule #3: Work the room. Be that guy that everyone likes. Talk to the dudes, bring something to the table. Be interesting. Give the chick some space, and then let her come back to you. CLEARLY a girl who is surrounded by friends is going to give her attention (at some point) to her friends and not exclusively the random guy (YOU) she just met! Let her mingle around; let her see you talking to other chicks, making friends with her friends (guys and girls). Occasionally give her a look from across the room.
Obviously isolation should be your goal, but sometimes it just isn’t feasible or appropriate at some parties. Go with your gut. If it’s a crazy out of control party and the chick is super into you, go for the bounce or try to fuck her in a random bedroom upstairs. But if it’s just people chilling and it’s really not that *vibe* then play it cool, get the # try for the day 2. One thing I’ve learned is that making plans for a day 2 that night is almost imperative. Getting a number from a girl is something that ANY dude should be able to do. FACT: Getting a date the next day with a random chick is something that most guys do not do once they have the number.
Rule #4: Qualify. Great success comes from proper qualification; people like to feel that they are individuals that they have good qualities that others can appreciate. Do you really want to date a chick that can’t tell you something interesting about herself? When a girl begins to qualify herself to you, she does several things that are important psychologically.
- Gets out of the party conversation mindset.
- Begins to invest herself in you.
- In this process backwards rationalized that if she is trying to impress you by qualifying herself to you, she must like you to some degree.
I tend to favor a natural approach, one that is devoid of any canned lines, however, when it comes to qualifying, there are several ways in which you can do this.
The bigger the hoop, the farther along in the interaction you will be if she ‘jumps through’, but you will also find the person is more reluctant to answer if you don’t have enough attraction or comfort, or are not isolated at this point in the interaction. It should be noted that there should be touching and physicality throughout, and that this qualification stage should take place in isolation.
Rule #5: Lead and Escalate. You need to move the girl. How are you gonna take her home if you don’t lead her there! This starts in little ways, let’s go sit down, lets grab a beer, lets meet your friends etc. Then THE PULL: OK so you successfully were the fun guy at the party, had social proof, worked the room, found a chick and made out with her, now you want to pull her out of there. She wants to leave with you, but there are usually several hold-ups in her mind. An important caveat to make at this time is the fact that having sex with a women is emotional for them, not logical. You: hot girl= sex. For her she needs a thousand other things we cannot get into at this point.
But lets say she wants to leave with you. You cannot appear desperate. If it seems like you haven’t gotten laid in 6 months and now you might just get some, but you act nervous, over excited etc. Shit will go downhill… fast. Play it cool. Be the man. Lead her to your apartment/ dorm/ car.
You can dictate your reality just by changing your beliefs.
Much of what pushes us forwards or holds us back is limited or empowering beliefs.
When you change the way you look at the world, the world changes the way it looks at you.
What’s stopping you?
Is it all in your mind?
Don’t you want to grow and evolve as a person?
Wouldn’t you be happier knowing that you tried and gave it your best, then didn’t try it at all because of fear.
Fear is a construct in your mind. It does not exist.
OK so this is a fairly straightforward post, it deals with how to set up your apartment to maximize your sexual income.
Cleanliness – Is kind of a big deal. Try to clean up the clutter, if you must, focus on your bedroom and bathroom. Also make sure there are no dirty dishes or trash around.
Bathroom- Seriously clean it up. Leave the seat down, don’t pee on the seat.
Music – Get’s girls in the mood, to get in the nood. Avoid state breaks and prosper when the music is right. Don’t have it be slow, i find that house music or hip hop keeps girls in a good mood. Don’t impress her with your love for chopin at this point, you are more likely to put her to sleep.
Lighting- Should get progressively darker as you move towards the bedroom. Lights or candles can definitely add to the mood. Don’t frantically run around fixing the lighting, have it set up before you leave for the night.
Condoms- Should be hidden EVERYWHERE within arms reach. Seriously. Never know where it’s gonna go down.
Bedroom- Make it so your bed is the only place to sit down. If you have a chair or sofa in your bedroom, put a ton of clothes on it so she has to sit on your bed.
Decor – Not gonna get into this too much, but try to have it fit your personality. If you are 40, a fight club poster in your bedroom is weird. Buy some paintings dude! Not so much if you are 20, live up your college years. Things like plants, fish show you can keep things besides yourself alive.
This may not seem important, and really if a chick is super into you, not gonna matter, but what about the one time where she freaks out about a stain in your toilet. Avoid all objections.